Friendship isn’t where you hang out every once in a while and text each other about your day. Friendship is actually taking a personal interest and investment in someone’s life who you think is worthwhile. Taking interest in their interests, supporting their dreams whatever they may be, and doing anything you possibly can to help them and be there for them. The word friendship has been grossly deformed and overused to where it’s replaced the term acquaintance. Friendship is so much deeper than the implications it’s given, and unfortunately true friendship, like the term itself, has been all but lost in our modern time.
The Slim: People don’t understand friendship anymore
I agree that people don’t understand friendship, but I wonder if a lot of people feel this way about the “definition” of true friendship. I think there are different levels of friendship, and the words we have to describe relationships are limiting. There are people I know that I don’t really talk to, but I feel like labeling them as a mere acquaintance does an injustice to the bond we once had.
I have two people in my life that I consider close friends that I don’t talk to or see all that often (we’ve all been working toward changing that as well); however, I do care about them in a deeper way. Yet I have no way to distinguish them between the friends who aren’t quite acquaintances.
Then I have a friend who I talk to frequently. We don’t get to see each other all that often, but the world doesn’t feel quite right if it’s been a long time (max length has been like two days, I think) since we sent at least a text. We call each other twin in both English and Spanish, and recently we found other terminology. That most people would probably say we’re too close for our friendship/relationship (ah, terms are like handcuffs) to be a non-romantic thing makes me sad. This is the part where I really dig this quote/post. Things just aren’t so simple.
People don’t know what friendship looks like on top of our shackle-terms. Taking a look through fandoms shows us that people can’t separate romance and a deep bond, and also aren’t very good at recognizing where each is happening (in my opinion anyway). We could look at three relationships/friendships from TV that are all based on Sir Arthur Conan Doyle’s Sherlock/Watson bond: Sherlock and John from the BBC show, Patrick and Lisbon from The Mentalist, and House and Wilson from House MD.
In my opinion which I know many disagree with (that’s okay, that’s what art is for), Sherlock and John do not have romantic potential. I can see them in a QPR, but I really don’t think Sherlock would ever have interest in something sexual with anyone. Patrick and Lisbon do have romantic potential. People protest this and ship it vehemently, but I think you’re crazy if you don’t think Teresa Lisbon is in love Patrick Jane. She’s changed so much of late, and I do believe it’s because she’s falling ever more into Patrick’s trap of charm. Right now, I don’t think he returns the feelings quite the same way, but once Red John is gone, fuck yeah. I ship the shit out of House and Wilson, but I don’t think a romantic relationship in the cannon would be fitting of their characters.
The diversity of opinion alone shows that people have different ideas about what qualifies as friendship love and romantic love and also sexual love. So, wow; how do we ever communicate with each other?
Anyway. I’m terribly interested in this subject (lol, obviously), and I’m curious about other peoples’ opinions. (via balaszafiros)